What Social Anxiety is And How Can Reduce it
This 2020 is going to end soon. And we humans are planning for our new year resolution. On the other hand, some people think that there should be no resolution.
I am also a person who doesn't make any new year's resolutions.
Although making a new year's resolution is good and beneficial if you have the potential to follow it. But if you don't have much capacity to follow these norms which you initially decided for yourself.
So you don't have to make it.
It's very simple. If you make any resolution and still not go through the year, then what is the use of making it.
I believe it's my personal opinion. Instead of making a new year resolution ( if you don't want to make it, in that case only) we have to make a firm decision to make a habit or break a habit.
It's optional, Whether to follow or not is up to you.
So in this upcoming year. Let's break one habit.
Let's talk about one habit. Commonly known as anxiety. It's a widely speared and very famous word. Almost everyone is aware of this world.
Social anxiety is one of them. Most people have it. When I talk with people about their anxiety issues. Some of them agreed on having social anxiety. Also, some of them were confused between anxiety and stress.
So let's discuss, 'what is social anxiety'.
What is social anxiety?
If you are one of them who have no will to be a part of any social gathering like parties, events, any kinda function, Meetings, seminars etc.
You might have social anxiety.
People who are suffering from it. Have problems facing any kind of social event. They feel discomfort and nervousness while having many people around them.
Whenever they feel in this way. They start feeling Nervous, sweaty and sometimes they become falter while talking. These are some symptoms of social anxiety.
It's very normal to have this feeling, having butterflies in the stomach. But it's not in our benefit.
Why social anxiety is harmful -
Social anxiety holds you back. Decrease your performance, probably make you alone.
In that scenario, people used to avoid meeting with friends and family members also. They preferred text over meetings.
One of the major reasons for having social anxiety is people have a fear of being judged. They usually feel embarrassed while around many people.
You always feel uneasy and messed. You always have a fear of being judged by someone. Being embarrassed by someone. You waste your energy while thinking of others, like what others think about us.
What we look in front of others, like are we beautiful or ugly, people also feel distressed while making eye contact with someone.
Social anxiety makes you this less - confident person.
A person who always remains confused about what to say or what not to say.
One of the biggest problems of this one is you Over Analyze everything. Like if anyone takes a long time to reply, you might think they don't like you.
And if any other person ignores you, you might feel that the person is intentionally ignoring or this person has no interest while talking with me.
And these thoughts give you a lot of stress. Remember that you don't know what is inside their mind, so please don't assume anything according to your preference.
How can we reduced social anxiety-
In the above of the paragraph. I told you about what social anxiety is and why it's harmful. And now I will tell you about how we can reduce social anxiety.
These are two steps which help to reduce social anxiety.
Identify the root cause of your anxiety-
If you want to solve your problems. First, you have to identify the root cause of your problem.
Any problem can mend if we are aware of the real reason for the problem.
Don't be negative all the time, think positive. This about the problem you are facing which is making you a person of social anxiety.
Try to solve the problem. There is always a way, there is always a solution to any problem.
For example, if you are having a problem in public speaking. Try to fix it while working on it like you should prepare a lecture and can deliver it in front of two or three members. Well, slowly you can increase the number of your audience.
One day you will find yourself a person who has no fear in public speaking. A person who looks more confident in the room.
Work step by step on everything. These things take time. It's not going to change in a day.
Always make an effort to be a better version of yourself. you are not going to fail if you truly make an effort for this one.
Anxiety is curable. It's on us how much time we take to suppress it.
A little bit of anxiety is ok. But little more than or in excessive amounts will be worse for you.
So please try to figure out and work on it.
Don't avoid social gathering -
When you try to avoid anything it becomes worse. So please try not to avoid social events or gatherings.
By having a fear of judging we usually avoid such conditions.
Sometimes we create our imagination and expectations which are closely related to other people. When these expectations don't meet with our desire and imagination, we are left disappointed.
When we left disappointed, we started using safety behaviour. That's how the problem begins.
Be kind to yourself. Understand that, it doesn't mean what people think about you. What they say about you. Their behaviour and thoughts can't define you. Only you know yourself better.
Adopt little confidence in yourself. Speak confidently.
Just go beyond fearing social situations. When you have social anxiety you feel distressed and confused on starting the conversation or maintaining it.
Gain knowledge about various topics, ask questions that may help you to start or maintain the conversation.
Slowly you will lose the fear of social anxiety.
So this is a wrap of the article. I hope you understand what social anxiety is and how we can reduce it. At the beginning of the new year, we must have to leave this form of anxiety. Wishing you good luck.
Also, read - Simple Things Everyone Should Do Before Going To Bed
1 Comments
Wow ! Decent piece. I want to suggest few things, can you share your experience whether you have passed through situation and if yes then how you tackled it. And what if a person feel like he is bit of shy and have bit of fear to talk in public gathering.. how can he change his attitude ?
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